Go to school, go to university, get a job, settle down, get married, have kids, build a house AND LIFE WILL BE PERFECT RIGHT!?
Ah no- wrong!
We are all told from such a young age what our life should be like, what we should do and who we should become.
“Don’t do that!”
“Don’t say that!”
“That’s naughty”
“That isn’t a real job”
“Surely you know what you want to do”
“You need to figure it out and apply for something before you miss out!”
“What are your friends doing?”
“Money doesn’t grow on trees you know!”
“Aren’t you going to get married before having kids?”
How many times have you had similar statements said to you?
How did they make you feel?
More lost, more misunderstood, not good enough or unsuccessful, right?
We allow scores on a piece of paper, or other people’s opinions and beliefs determine our worth, and what we are capable of achieving.
We allow their negative experiences to determine ours, and are not free to make our own life choices.
I mean, did you really know what you wanted to be, do and have in this lifetime at the age of seventeen or eighteen?
Or did you fall into what someone else believed was best for you?
Looking back on our teenage years, and leaving school we had NO idea what we really wanted to do for the rest of our lives.
It is such a huge decision! And getting sucked into doing a university degree or course, even if you believe it isn’t the right fit for you isn’t just soul sucking, it is also a waste of your time and money.
So why do we do it? Because we all seek acceptance and the need for external validation.
We need to feel like we fit in, and are loved and are pleasing others. It is just a part of human nature, and society as a whole.
We don’t like to put others down, and we tend to put others needs before our own.
If we are doing anything outside of what is considered “normal” we are shunned, or put down, then that makes us feel inadequate and unaccepted- so what happens? WE QUIT!
We quit on our own dreams because society didn’t accept them.
That’s so wrong!
It is time to let people stand up for what they feel and know is right for them. No matter how crazy, or weird it may seem to someone else, to them it could mean everything.
It could be exactly what they were put here to do.
No matter how worried, or concerned you may be about their life choice, it is not your choice to make. And people won’t learn and grow if they don’t try and test new things, to see what works and what doesn’t.
People can’t find their life’s purpose and what lights them up, if they don’t try the things they feel called to do.
We aren’t frigen robots! We are allowed to move around and be different.
Why would we want to all be the same? Wouldn’t the world be boring!?
Let others feel free to do what they choose.
Stop being sheep and following along with what everyone else is doing.
Break the rules!
Be bold!
Be brilliant!
Learn new things and grow!
You will never know if something is right for you unless you try, so don’t be scared to try because of someone else’s beliefs or opinions, they are not fact unless proven to be true!
The minute you allow the opinion of someone else control your life’s decisions, is the minute you lose control.
Elise and Josh
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